Slider Surgery And You: AKA Basic Human Proportion

As a shopper and a designer as well, I find I spend a lot of time modifying prims to fit various avatar shapes (either mooding others’ stuff to fit my own, or helping a customer adjust my stuff to fit their avatar). One thing that I have learned is that the “ideal” for each person can be widely variable. :)

However, I also have noticed an alarming trend in head size vs. body size, eye size vs. head size, and hip widths. Don’t get me wrong here, I have a “hippy” avatar, and again, everybody’s ideal is different. And that’s wonderful! You can look however you want to in SL™, and that’s a great thing. BUT, there are some things to keep in mind if you don’t want to appear somehow alien. (Um, unless you know, you’re going for alien.)

Now, in my personal opinion, almost everyone in SL™ is way too tall, including me! But, it gets tiresome dancing in midair, and/or having to adjust every kiss pose set you buy so that you suck face, rather than suck forehead or chin. Height is not so bad though, since nearly everyone is so tall, but I submit that despite everyone being 6′-7′ tall, we can still have some reasonable proportions.

Let’s start with faces.

In general your eyes should be halfway down your head. Your head should then be approximately five eyes wide. (Imagine one eye on either side of your actual eyes, and one eye in between.) Your nose should have its bottom halfway between your eyes and your chin. Mouth should then be halfway between bottom of nose and chin. The corners of your mouth should align approximately with the center of your eyes. Ears should align at the top with your eyebrows and at the bottom with the bottom of your nose.

Now I realize that these “rules” of proportion make it sound like you are limited in what you can do with a face. But that’s not at all true. These are just approximate guidelines - they don’t have to be exact, and then you have subtle variations like fullness of lips, width of nose, upturn of nose, the tilt of the eye, etc.

Moving on to the body, etc…

On average, a human being is approximately 6-8 “heads” tall. Shoulders should be nearly wide enough to sit three of your heads on. I know we females like to be a bit on the “leggy” side, and that’s alright - but as a guideline you should be about 4 “heads” from hip to toes, 2 “heads” from chest to navel (and with 1 “head” for your actual head, that puts you right in between 6-8 heads tall :p).

Now, the size of a woman’s chest and hips can vary quite a lot, but I would gently, gently (I said EFFING GENTLY) “encourage” that you not give yourself a wasp’s waist in combination with a hippo’s hind end, but this could be one of those moments where my ideal and your ideal are widely different.

I’m not going to cover hands and feet - not really - but keep in mind in terms of arm length, that with your arms straight out to your sides, from end of middle finger to end of middle finger should be approximately your full height. :) Obviously everyone in SL™ sets their foot size rather small because otherwise we look like doofuses in prim shoes - BUT hand size, well your hands approximate size from wrist to middle fingertip should be about as long as your head is high.

Again, I’m not trying to tell you that you shouldn’t be creative if you are so inclined, but if you want a well-proportioned human shape, these are good guidelines. ;) I’ve seen a lot of fairly famous (and I won’t name names, really, I’m not looking for that particular bit of drama) who have obscenely large heads on obscenely small bodies - and it makes them look eerily alien to me.

A note to other designers: I won’t say that this affects my decisions on what to buy very often, except when it comes to hair. If I suspect for one minute that you’re going to suggest to me that I should choose to have an eerily large head to wear your hair right out of the box, I’m likely to just go somewhere where the designer has a better sense of proportion, whether I can modify it or not. ;) Just sayin’.

I’m also not sayin’ my av is anywhere near perfect - but due to my own personal tastes I have made an effort to make sure she is reasonably within these guidelines, though some tweaking here and there may be in order. :)

In SL™, though, where you can be anything you want to be, I do highly encourage experimentation, and if you want to roam the grid as an alien life form, I’m all for it. (Just don’t be a naked alien life form in PG areas, please?)

On Being Impossibly Shy

You might not think so, since I am fairly outspoken here, and am a content creator in SL™, and have photos of my av in various states of dress on Flickr, but I am, both in SL™ and RL, horribly, painfully, hopelessly shy.

I am rarely the first to say hello. I am rarely the first to say anything! I am an SL™ Mentor, but I do so quietly, away from crowded Welcome Areas and Orientation Islands. It even took me months to warm up to chatting in the MM group channel.

It takes me ages to make friends, because I am too quiet, too reserved, to put myself out there. I love meeting new people, but it takes me a while to warm up and feel comfortable. Around friends, I can be very outspoken, and have an excellent (if I do say so myself) sense of humor. I will laugh long and loud, joke and tease (good-naturedly, of course. I’m really never intentionally mean to anyone) and am lots of fun to have around.

The problem is, it really does take ages for me to warm up to people to that point. There have been countless times where my shyness has caused me to be branded “snobby” and/or “cold.”

On the up side, although I do not always enjoy being alone, I rarely find myself unable to be when I want to be. It gives me a lot of time to write, to paint, to draw, to read, and do the things I love doing. Which is not to say that I don’t love being around people, too, because I do. Except around those that I am close to, however, I tend to be more an observer than anything.

But there are always the drawbacks… the awkwardness around new people, the desire to get to know someone I find fascinating that is overpowered by my inability to strike up a simple conversation.

I’m working on this, because, although I can see the advantages in being the quiet, observant type, I have missed many opportunities to get to know some wonderful people that, for all I know, may have turned out to be very good friends, indeed.

In some ways, SL™ helps a little with this particular problem of mine. For one, at least for initial contact, I can “hide” behind my avatar. I can tell myself that whatever someone says or thinks about my av, that doesn’t really matter, because it’s not me. The only problem with this, is that, I am me, wherever I am. I am acutely aware of the difference between SL™ and RL, but, that does not mean that I can really detach myself in quite that extent from my av. I don’t say or do things in SL™ that are not, or do not come from, very real thoughts of mine. I don’t make friends in SL™ that I don’t number among my friends, in general. I don’t differentiate that way. I’ve tried at times, but I just can’t. If I call you my friend, you’re my friend. Wherever you are, or however I met you.

However, again on the positive side, I often have a lot of time to observe someone before a conversation is begun. I can see how they interact with others, determine whether they have a good sense of humor, whether or not they are kind, long before they start talking to me. At times, this has helped me make the determination of whether or not I’m really willing to step out of my comfort zone and make friends or not.

I am me, and mostly I am happy with me. I am not perfect, though, and there are things that I am working on. This hopelessly shy aspect of my personality is one of those things that I am working on. I think I can still take pleasure in being an observer, without being too terrified to say hello ever. ;)

Still Painting With Broad Brushes

The post that I am responding to here, has been up for several days now, but I only just stumbled upon it a little while ago. I’d like to respond to some of it, although I know that in many senses I am just wasting my breath. I really get the impression that people simply want to blame the entire Mental Mentors group for the actions of some… and it gets a lot frustrating, and a little hurtful. I love being part of the SL™ Mentors group, and being a Mental Mentor, too. I have made wonderful friends through both groups and activities associated with them.

So, even though I feel that I am wasting my breath… still I have to open my mouth. :)

A Few Thoughts On Windlight

Now that Windlight has come to the main viewer, I have heard lots of feedback, positive and negative, from friends and fellow bloggers about it. “Lighting is too harsh!” “The skies are so pretty!” “OMG, there’s no icky brown haze/fog at the horizon anymore!” “Too many shadows on my avatar’s face!” It goes on and on. Designers are even starting to turn to revamping face and body lighting systems to look better in Windlight.

What very few ever mention, though, is how customizable WL is on its own. In days past, you had two daytime settings that were available to you so that your av would be charmingly “lit” without making use of face and/or body lights. Sunrise, and sunset. With WL, that is no longer the case! If you want it to, any time of day can be as well-lit or deeply-shadowed as you want it to be!

(Warning: If you expand this post, you will find some nudity on this page. Avatar nudity, and well, you really can’t see anything, because her hair hangs down over her chest… but it is there.)

Broad Brushes

This is going to probably be quite the long-winded post. It’s probably going to be full of ranty goodness, too. For this, I apologize in advance.

Before I go any further, I would like to thank those who are talking about this subject without bashing the group(s) involved as a whole. Yes, I’m talking to you Codie♥, and a handful of others. A small handful. I mean it wholeheartedly when I say thank you - because the Mentor and/or Mental Mentor bashing is getting tough to swallow.

Well, tough to swallow? More like impossible, and I’m not going to just swallow it anymore.

I’m a Second Life® Mentor. I’m also a Mental Mentor. Second Life® Mentors are an officially-sanctioned group. Mental Mentors are not. Mental Mentors is a third-party group that is meant to allow those of us who like to be chatty with our fellow mentors to do so. It’s also a “safe” place to ask for help with problems from other mentors. There is an officially-sanctioned “Q&A” group for Mentors, that would be Second Life® Mentor Q&A.

Apparently, one member of Mental Mentors sent out some sculpties that were created by Cel Edman via a group notice in Mental Mentors. This would mean that about 800 people got the offer. Those 800 people could then be redistributing the content of said package anywhere and everywhere. I say this only to make it 100% clear that I know how serious this issue is. I am a content creator myself, and I would be heartbroken if my things were released to the masses full permission without my consent. For me, it’s the without my consent part that is so key, but I do understand the financial implications as well. (For the record: my shop exists for one reason and one reason only, and that is to earn myself the tickets to the Netherlands I’m so dying for to go see the one I love. So finance, yes, that matters to me, too.)

Now, here we are, and Mentors/Mental Mentors are being painted with one very broad brush in a very, very unflattering light. I understand the anger and frustration that comes from feeling like Linden Lab™’s permissions system and DMCA procedures don’t do much to actually protect your content. I understand feeling powerless to stop people from disregarding your terms of use. I understand all of that very, very well. What I don’t understand is, basically laying the blame for it all at the feet of 800 people, 799 of whom did not choose to send out full permission items to a group without copyright notices in tact. (Which would make it clear to those 799 that they weren’t really even meant to have them in the first place, let alone share them with anyone else.)

I’m not going to sit here and tell you that I don’t see the flaws in the Mentor system as a whole - because I do. I’m not going to sit here and tell you that all Mentors are perfect - because we’re not. What I am asking you to do - telling you to do - is to stop painting me with the same brush that you’re choosing to paint the one person responsible for the notice with. I have purchased products from Cel Edman legitimately - and I will continue to do so, as his sculpts are some of the finest in Second Life®. I will not ever, ever redistribute what I’ve purchased from Cel Edman as-is. (Or any other full permission texture pack that I’ve purchased which explicitly states that it is not meant to be redistributed!) We are not one big ball of evil content thieves, you know. We’re a group of Mentors who like to be able to talk to one another, that’s all. We are all flawed, imperfect beings - but we are not all flawed in the same ways. We are not a hive mind; we are not the damn Borg. (That part was supposed to make you laugh, ok?)

I’d also like to share with you what I know of the person who actually is responsible for passing out the sculpts. He is not a bad person. He is kind, friendly, funny and willing to go out of his way to help someone out. I do feel that he should not have passed out items that were not meant to be passed out in that manner, but I do not feel that he deserves to be nailed to a cross, either. If we all got nailed to crosses for errors in judgment, who wouldn’t have holes in their wrists & feet?

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